She will try to deflect but you just have to be ready to turn it back on her.
Remember, she's had all this time to justify and rationalize her behavior. You cant take the bait and get into arguing with her. I like Puppy's point about "agreeing" rather than "validating". Did you read that? I'm not even sure which thread it was on.
She may be angry (on the offensive) or she can possibly even by smug and self-righteos, like she's done nothing wrong. Either way it's a defense mechanism so don't let anything she says get to you. (Easier said than done, I know!)
