I think having a good defensive statement will be important for you, CD, knowing that you feel some guilt for not having addressed issues in the marriage earlier. If she brings up any of that, you have to not be caught off guard and go into guilt mode. BTDT, got the shirt! I think you already addressed that but just making the point here. The problems always come for me when H is sounding reasonable and "right" because there's a shred of truth in what he's saying. Maybe, "I take responsibility for my past mistakes. However, nothing I did or didn't do is cause for destroying a family. I am certain of what I want and how I want it in the future and fully prepared to get that for myself."
