I don't know what my now-ex was doing for sure, but in January I stopped by his new house to drop off stuff for the kids. He had run an errand and left door unlocked. I went in to drop things off and right on his boxes of crap he left a stack of misc papers. On top was a receipt for a local (in the greater metro area) hotel. He had a house finally, so he didn't need a motel. Who knows who he met or what they did? Ick...
There is a song "Slow Fade" that kind of relates to this, things start out 'harmless' but they grow with time. As was recently posted, it escalates because the initial soft stuff stops giving them the 'high' and they need more stimulation. Just sad, really. I can't imagine anyone caught up in that having any sense of pride. My ex gets very angry about a lot of things and my IC says that is all of his anger at himself, but he can't face what he has become, what he has done, so he pushes the anger out onto me, his job, his life, anything but himself.
All I know if after this experience, I will NEVER have a relationship with a man if I know he uses porn, no matter how 'harmless' he thinks it is.
