Thank you everyone for the responses. If there is one thing I have learned through this mess is that if you are unsure of your path then seek counsel. The people on these boards are incredible, the support and understanding that is here is amazing.
I have grown enough through this process to not over react anymore and take my time, which is exactly what I did tonight.
My wife called to see where I wanted to meet her to drop off the kids and I was upbeat and positive and did not say anything about the email.
When I arrived at the location, she was there waiting and as we pulled up she got out of the car. We got out the kids said hello and got in her car and we breifly talked about when and where I would pick D13 back up to come home.
After that I said to her.....
I got your email today, I am glad you brought that up. I am going to bow out on Thursday so you can have some more quality time with the kids. I am going to be out until about 10 pm or so that night so if you want to come back to the house and hang out with the kids afterwards, you can, so you don't have to bring D13 back down here.
That was it, I smiled while I was saying it and it felt right. My W actually had a surprised look on her face when I said it. I said goodbye and wished them all a good time tonight, turned and left.
I think that going forward I am not going to do so much as a family anymore, not eliminate but just a little less. I am still going to be friendly and nice.
I will post more tomorrow about how I am feeling but for now everything is fine and I am okay.
Formerly "missherlove"
Me49 XW49 M17 T19 S16 D20
Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.