I know you addressed your questions to IMLin BUT I wanted to respond.
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I realize that I need major healing!
Yes you do. IMO the only way that really happens is when you can truly step away from HIS crisis. Step away IMO is limit contact, do not even try to initiate a convo, if you see him in person leave him be.
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Should I text or email him once a week regarding updates on house and S?
No i would not. If he asked you to and YOU feel like doing it then yes...send him a text otherwise let him go. Now I think the bigger question I have for you is "why DO YOU feel the need to text him weekly"? Is this your way of keeping a pulse on what he is doing? If it is, then you are relying on tactics to get him back instead of working on yourself and becoming the best person you can be.
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He typically doesn't call the kids - but he'll text them maybe twice a day
Have you ever did or accepted something that you knew was wrong when you were a kid? Like...getting a extra quarter back from the cashier at a store. Did you give it back? If you did not, did you noticed that you tried to avoid that cashier. Your H may not want to talk to the kids because of guilt. This is his issue not yours. Separate the R between you and your H from the R between your H and the kids.
IB - I feel for you..please take care of yourself. In those moments of hurt...of anger...of pain...Pray, read and just stay relaxed.
Finally, since you said you were funny could you do me a favor and send me a good "yo mama joke" as well as a good "husband or wife" joke?
God Bless and please keep your head up high.
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
