listen. yes life is short. and all I can tell you is that I went through the ringer this last 12 months. and listen to everything these people tell you. they are amazing. and they know what this is all about.
all I can say is it takes time... but you have more control over your life and your own happiness than you realize. but you will have to go through this process on your own at your own pace.
the sooner you can emotionally detatch yourself from your H the better. the way to do this, I found, was to try and make new friends and build a life for myself that did not have anything to do with my W. this was really hard. and it took me a year. I stalled because I did not want to face reality. the reality is that you actually do not need your husband.
and don't feel bad about wanting to have sex! you are human for jehova's sake.
not saying that you should act on it... just saying that you should not feel bad about it.
