I am probably the last person in the world who should be giving any advice...
but I know how you feel.
and you cannot see the forest for the trees.
and from the outside looking in you need to drop the rope, GAL, and start working on a life that does not NEED your wife.
it took me a few months but right now the amazing thing is that I do not ache for or need my wife. I am ok and happy on my own two feet. I think this is a really important place to get to. how did I get there? by going out, meeting people, and building a life for myself where my emotional needs of having friends and having people want to be with me gradually took the place of that void that was left by my wife leaving me. yes-- just hanging out with other people can fill that void. then you are no longer needy... no longer pining.
once you reach that state you gain incredible strength. with that you can see a life without your wife... and dude? the really weird thing is that you reach a point where you can objectively say.. "I can take her or leave her. I will be ok either way. It is a win-win situation!"
so I don't know how my sitch will turn out. all I know is my wife seems to be essentially begging me to come back. and I feel very detatched, actually, from that phenomenon. I am really trying to figure out what is best for me... and what is best for my boys. I am trying to compartmentalize the relationship I have with my wife (which is pretty much dead-- anything new would be just that-- new).. and the relationship I have with my boys.
my take? I wouldn't call her, text her, or email her. I would start to find new friends, people to be with, re-create Miss her-- or realize that you are a good dude who people will want to spend time with as yourself... at the very least this has been very important for me to reach this point.
