Seeking..I have looked at quite a few of the archives. It seems that the majority of people here do not have success stories at least sucess in getting their marriages back. Success in moving ahead and having a good life, but not so much with their spouse. That is disheartening.
As for protecting myself financially, well he works, I don't. the money gets deposited into his account (which I have access to) and I transfer funds into my account as I need it. I have not abused this nor has he stopped me from doing it. We are both being very conscientious about spending right now. So that's good. But he could cut me off at any time..he could walk away and tell me to take care of it all and he's done. if that happened, I would be in deep trouble. I have been trying to find a job for a couple of months now. I'm still waiting to hear back from some of them. That would help as far as my finances. But i would not be able to afford the house if he didn't help. We pretty much have all of our money tied up in the house.
Sometimes I think he is just trying to wait me out..instead of the other way around. Wait until I have had enough and tell him it's over. He seems to be getting what he needs..me at home keeping the house..other women providing the excitment and sex. I think he feels sorry for me that I love him so much and want to stand for the marriage. At least that's the look he has on his face when he does meet my eyes..which isn't much anymore.
