Just chiming in with total agreement with True, Eric & Jack. After what she wrote, I think that anything you say can be misconstrued as reactionary or as pursuing--doesn't matter what it is.

So the best bet is to go with your guy, give her some version of "I'm sorry you feel that way, but I can see why you wouldn't want that to happen" and leave it at that.

You said it before--she needs time to miss the R . And her H. Give her all the time she needs.

You've already come so far... don't chase her back into the tunnel.

You are doing better than you think you are. hang in there.

((hugs))

formerly known as "shelbel"
Me 40, stbxh 40
DSs 9, 7 & 3
M9, T10
Stbxh is a diagnosed bipolar & an addict. The end.