punkin..not sure if there is any other way to chat. You could create a new FB account with a made up girl's name and go that route. I'm kinda paranoid too. Sometimes i worry that someone on here might be the OW or my H trying to bait me for stuff or try to be my friend just to get info from me about what I'm going to do. It sucks to be so paranoid like that when I'm usually so trusting. this whole MLC thing has made me less trusting in every aspect of my life. If your H, who is supposed to love you more than anyone, can do this to you..then for sure anyone else would. that's scary to me.
