Allen, H did mention that he is still willing to go on the weekend retreat my counseling center recommends. The one that is similar to Retrovaille (sp?) I think. Well, it's for marriages in crisis - even for people who have already filed. Of course, he said he would go "if it would make me feel better."

I am trying to decide whether or not we should go given his current state of mind. Should I backburner it? If we wait, it will be awhile before it's close to us again. The next one near us is right around the corner - July 30th, so I need to make a decision about it. www.savemymarriage.com