Contact is defined as: • Physical contact œ being in the same p lace at the same time; • Verbal contact œ direct communication of any sort; • Indirect communication œ messages relayed through friends, family, coworkers, etc; • Indirect information œ information about the partner‘s actions, whereabouts, thoughts, or feelings relayed by friends, family, co workers, etc; • Personal information œ reading the partner ‘s mail, email, checking credit card or other financial information, driving past where s/he is staying, hiring a PI; • Obsessing and ranting about the partner; and • Any activity or habitual thought pattern that keeps the betrayed partner and the pain of the destructive activity in the forefront of his or her consciousness.
Note : I don't agree with bickering over the definition of contact, but I am offering this up anyways. In my opinion there will ALWAYS be disagreement between you and your wife on the definition of contact until you come up with some HARD CONSEQUENCES for her establishing contact.
