Movin' On...

[Kalni]

Bbj, he is getting to bold too soon. I dont like that either. Tell him to leave you alone.
K

[BobbiJo]

Bbj, he is getting to bold too soon. I dont like that either. Tell him to leave you alone.
K

Yes, too bold to soon is one thing. But he is ALSO married with a BABY!!! The trifecta of ick--bold/boundary pushing, married, and child. Triple ick.

[BobbiJo]

Sigh. This is taking up too much of my time for someone I don't care about!!

I blocked Creeper from fb. Ten minutes later I checked my hotmail before logging off the computer. Yep, new message from him...

Hey Bobbie,
I hope the fair is going well for you and I hope the kids had a good time. I was on facebook and I noticed that I so your post to Ron but when I tried to make a commit it has expired and I look to see if you were in my friend list and you weren't I was wondering if you would add me again. Dang computers.

Well Talk to you soon

Dennis

Ok,

A) You spelled my name wrong!

B)Really? You hope I enjoyed the fair? Which I didn't talk about with you you just read it on my profile... (I know anyone else could do the same thing but just...boundaries, false familiarity is gross)

C)Dang computers? Really? Think it was just a fluke?

He is pretending to be dense, right? Or is he so egotistical he can't imagine I'd block him?

Was hoping to avoid direct confrontation, but I don't know how to block his emails or phone calls. Anyone else know? Or just reply firmly to stop contacting me? Didn't want to give any 'reward' for his efforts by contacting him...

[mishka422]

OK ICK!!!! I've been so busy at work that I haven't been able to check in here. You have had a lot going on!!!

I'm pretty sure you can block him in email but I don't know how you go about blocking someone from calling you.

This guy is starting to feak me out for you!!!! Do everything possible to get him away from you. Unfortunately, subtlety probably won't work. You're going to need to be direct and tell him that you don't want to hear from him....AT ALL.

[newmama]

Bobbi, seriously, this is creeping me out too! Time to be DIRECT. Try email first:

"Dennis, I do not want to be friends with you. Please do not contact me again. Bobbi"

Then block his email. I don't know what you do about calls.

If he still contacts you, contact his wife!

[BobbiJo]

Bobbi, seriously, this is creeping me out too! Time to be DIRECT. Try email first:

"Dennis, I do not want to be friends with you. Please do not contact me again. Bobbi"

Then block his email. I don't know what you do about calls.

If he still contacts you, contact his wife!

So, just today...

The phone message i got when I got home from fair calling to see if I had gotten his message with his phone numbers and hoping to talk to me.

Then the email curious why he wasn't listed as a friend and could I add him (with the crap about the kids enjoying the fair)

Now he called my house again, from his work number this time! First time today was home #. I didn't answer bc I wasn't sure what to say. He left another message, this time saying he saw I had blocked him on facebook and he wanted to know "What's up". Wants me to call him. I am NOT calling him. Seriously. His poor wife. Ugh.

[BobbiJo]

THIS is what I just sent. Please don't tell me if I screwed up too much because I already sent it!


Dennis:



My marriage ended in large part because my husband began confiding in another woman, talking about our marriage problems, and just calling, emailing, texting her. Things progressed into an inappropriate relationship.



From that experience I have promised myself I would never make that same mistake myself. Therefore I do not think it is appropriate for you to be communicating like this. A "Hi, how are you, good to catch up" is one thing.



But multiple phone calls and emails, and giving me your cell phone and work contact info blurs the line. Does your wife know you are calling me and want me to call you? How would she feel about that knowing you guys are having a rough time? Not to mention your comments about the flowers I received make it pretty easy to draw conclusions.



Out of respect for your wife, and your marriage, I don't want to go down that road. Please don't call me anymore. Thanks for understanding and hope I haven't offended you.




Bobbi Jo

I also blocked his emails from contacting me thru hotmail. Maybe I was a little 'soft' but just in case there is 1% chance he didn't realize the inappropriateness. Now I feel like I stated my case and I won't feel bad AT ALL blocking his calls if he tries to call again.

So far I blocked him from FB and also blocked both his personal and work emails from emailing me at hotmail.

[ImprovedRomeo]

You know I was going to say he's just someone who thinks he's just being cute and friendly and doesn't know how it's coming across.

But after the emails and the phone calls etc I hate to say it but I don't think it's what I thought it was and he seems obsessed.

I nominate one of the burly men (so I'm out) from here to contact him on your behalf and say "Listen dipstick, if you try to call ma girl again ima come over there and kick your @$$ in front of your wife and kids- you got that pretty boai?"

You know I actually did that for STBXW when she sold her car to some scum who then started calling her at work. That put an end to that real quick. I didn't say I was going to kick his ass but I did say if he's got anything to discuss call me instead so I can take care of it. Then I quickly called my 6.3ft 220lbs buddy of mine and told him I might treat him to a free lunch the next day so keep his day open

[ImprovedRomeo]

BBJ, you took the high road and I think your note sounds excellent. I really hope he gets it!

[newmama]

OK...but promise to be direct if you have to confront him!