After Exposure - Keep It Going

[Quicksilver264]

QS you need to realize there are many people on this forum who are fighting for their marriages while living separately... There are arguments that this can HELP as well.

I completely understand that Allen. But once we sell the house, there is literally no reason to keep us in contact. Maybe to let our dogs play together, but if she moves 3 hours away then I will know she it totally and forever done.

She is so VERY intent on "moving on", which I heard her tell her mom means finding a guy "that makes her happy and laugh". She WANTS another relationship so she can "start the rest of her life".

My time with my wife started with her dog greeting me so happily at her apartment door. My time with my wife dies with the dog on Friday.

This is the truest statement I have EVER made. We have a bunch of animals, and always referred to ourselves as a "pack of strays".

We ALWAYS said we all found each other EXACTLY when we needed to. And that is completely true. Our third month of marriage we had an STUPID, AWFUL fight at a out of town wedding (talking divorce already), and when we got back in town she went to our friends to get our dog. She came back with a little puppy who was abandoned on the side of the road. That dog spent 7 years with us and brought us so much joy. The next dog we got 2 years later and he just lit up the family. He needed us so badly, and we found ourselves needing him. Then 2 years later, she brought home a VERY sick kitten, and we both took care of her night and day.

Even the day we first met there was Fate involved. She went somewhere in the building where we at our first day, and later on I went looking for her but couldn't find her. I then left the building after giving up, and what do you know, THERE SHE WAS at the top of a stairway hill walking down toward me. Within 10 minutes she asked me out on our first date. We never parted afterward. I always said it was Destiny that brought us together.

So maybe you guys now understand why I hurt so much. I know you all tell me that I have to control my feelings, but it takes EVERYTHING I HAVE to do that when I am around her.

I am in the middle of grieving for my marriage and my dog right now, and my family is older and sick and can't seem to handle the stress and pain in my life.