Two weeks ago, after months of suspicious activity, I discovered shocking evidence that my wife was having an affair. I found out that she had a secret email account, and had been maintaining a heated affair with an old, abusive boyfriend who had resurfaced on the internet. I was devastated but also outraged - I had asked her about some very suspicious activity in the past (erotic texts to another man) and she denied that there was anything to it, and denied it when I asked her if she had anything going on with anybody. I confronted her about it immediately, and asked her sit down and explain it to me. At first she denied it. When I read her the proof she confessed, but continued to lie about the details. She left that night, taking both sets of keys. When she came back the next day, she was in tears, and very remorseful. My wife and I have not had sex in over six months - she refuses to sleep in the same room as me. She got down on the floor and begged me for forgiveness. I took her back, after I told her that I wanted her body (stupid - I know). I tried to stop several times before we had sex. I don't know what I was thinking - I guess the male animal part of me wanted that primitive symbol of reposing my woman. I am not a sexist, nor am I violently or verbally abusive (we are both hot heads). Two days later, in the most shocking manner, I came home from work and found two friends of hers in our house looking at me stonily, our two cats yowling in their carriers, and my wife moving all her personal effects into her car. She left me after having an affair. There is obviously more to the tragedy than this, and we have had a history of bad arguments, among other things, but through it all we have been best friends and soul mates. I wake up every morning wondering how my lovely wife could have done this to us and our families. It has been two weeks and I am at the end of my rope. I had to resign from a job that I loved, and have spent a fortune on therapy. I am trying to work things out between us, but she will not come home. I am completely lost. any advice or kind words would be appreciated, and I would be happy to answer any questions.
