How To Tell The Kids

[Ready2Change]

I know that many/all of you think that I am still pursuing my W

Yes, I feel you are still pursuing your wife.

I have told her that she is getting the D she wants and I don't want to waste another 6-9 months of my life living with her in limbo. I have also told her a number of times that she should move out and that issues that come up don't matter because we are getting divorced. Those were very bold steps for me.

Bold actions will speak loud and clear to her and us that you are not pursuing her. She wants out. PACK HER STUFF UP. MOVE IT OUT OF YOUR LIFE. MOVE HER OUT OF YOUR LIFE. YOU ARE DONE WITH HER. Do not do it in a mean way. Just matter of fact. Do not fear her reaction.

She lies to me so well that I can't tell anymore.

Your focus is on her. You worry about if she is telling you the truth or telling you lies....

I am so confused about how all of this fits together.

You are too focused on figuring it out. The more uncomfortable it feels, the more likely it is "The right thing to do".

By detaching, pushing hard on the D, telling her to move, I won't be your friend, am I trying to make her realize that getting D will be harder than staying?

She needs to feel and experience the natural consequences of her actions.