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Of course, this is just my PoV because this was the problem in my marriage. STBXW had expectations of me which I didn't know about and vice-versa which built up resentment and the feelings of 'he/she doesn't care about me'.


I can kind of relate..."assumptions" are dangerous! I think stbxh wanted me to know what he was thinking.

I had an "aha" this afternoon....it was that the things stbxh and I had in common were not always good...

+both conflict avoiders
+both guarded
+both needed admiration (who doesn't?)
+both didn't want to hurt the other.....

hmmm.


me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004