Of course, this is just my PoV because this was the problem in my marriage. STBXW had expectations of me which I didn't know about and vice-versa which built up resentment and the feelings of 'he/she doesn't care about me'.
I can kind of relate..."assumptions" are dangerous! I think stbxh wanted me to know what he was thinking.
I had an "aha" this afternoon....it was that the things stbxh and I had in common were not always good...
+both conflict avoiders +both guarded +both needed admiration (who doesn't?) +both didn't want to hurt the other.....
hmmm.
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004