I know that many/all of you think that I am still pursuing my W and have not yet successfully detached and I guess you are right. I haven't quite dropped the rope completely. I still have HOPE. I feel like I have come a long way in a pretty short time and I don't really feel like I am pursuing her anymore, but maybe I don't recognize things I should consider pursuing as pursuit.
I have told her that she is getting the D she wants and I don't want to waste another 6-9 months of my life living with her in limbo. I have also told her a number of times that she should move out and that issues that come up don't matter because we are getting divorced. Those were very bold steps for me. I think I have GAL and I don't invite her to do things with us anymore.
I wish I knew what to believe about OM, but I just don't. She lies to me so well that I can't tell anymore.
On Goodman's thread, MP talks about working with his W rather than against her, in order to make it easier for her to stay than to leave. There is also a similar article posted on the front page of this site about a guy who remained best friends with his WAS and got reunited. I am so confued about how all of this fits together.
By detaching, pushing hard on the D, telling her to move, I won't be your friend, am I trying to make her realize that getting D will be harder than staying?
