No, of course life with mom and dad is not better--he thought this was the answer, so what happened? Well, as we know around here, he blamed the WRONG THING for his problems!
It must be human nature that people look everywhere else but at themselves to see what the real problems of their lives are.
I would feel superior, except..I did it too.lol. And so did you.lol.
So now you and I look inward and go through "the work" and you know what? We made mistakes. We have some issues. We could do better next time, sure. We forgive ourselves. We gain our confidence back much quicker.
And these guys that were SO SURE are SO STUCK!!! My H saw a L yesterday. He expected me to crack (he did! OMG he was a WRECK!) I was so calm, it must have freaked him out. I made sure he knew that if this was what he wanted, fine. My life would go on. I expect all the weirdness you went through to come my way soon.
And I have to remember that he is far, far behind me. I will have compassion, but I will stay very, very tough with him. (I have some different strategies than you because you are different than me in personality.)
Your H can see you are doing better than him. Mine can see it too. Both of them have lost confidence because they were SO SURE. And they are men--how easy was it for your H to admit he was wrong?
But you were friends first. And he needs a friend...
