WAW EA told her to leave

[DangerDave]

Thanks Gucci,

Sobering words that I really need to hear- Puppy has echoed similar in the past. I have two distinct camps of advice here that you have eluded to in your post - no one's right or wrong, but I have tended to take the middle ground on the W and how to approach it.

I truly thought it was progress, but it's more my minds eye of wishful thinking and that bs word called "Hope". Well hope is always there but I need to put in the right context - I need hope for ME first and foremost and need to work the 180's for me to get out of the hole I seem to be digging myself into. The kids are old enough to handle their dad doing some ME things and I will just have to work harder setting specific time with them and make the most of it for them and I.

Drastic times call for drastic measures, I think your right on, so I will setup the talk about finding her a place so she can leave. I know she won't go, so I'm sure it will fall back to me to go and I'm not sure how I can pull that off and keep the house, cars and pay the bills - I have to see just what I can give up to keep out of living in in a dump - or maybe I should shoot higher and make her feel the squeeze at home. Close the joint checking, transfer our assets back to me and leave her to figure out how to keep her and our kids lifestyle intact - which she cannot.

As for the affair - well you may be right but as I posted before I have had no evidence of it continuing from my intel sources, of course I can step it up further with following her or whatever, but when the separation takes place she's free to do as she pleases anyway so why bother to add to my emotions or lighten my wallet.

I'd like to cancel our trip in two weeks as well - it's going to be tough on the kids as they are looking so forward to it - but it is part of the fallout of divorce - better to get them prepared early I suppose.

Greek if you're out there I'd like to hear your take as well, but I have to really consider strongly what Gucci and Puppy are presenting.

Thanks Gucci-


DD