Sleeper, Bunch of us here are in similar time frames.
I think you're right that it is important to concentrate on ourselves and living our lives. I have found that minimizing contact w/X has been beneficial to me; I have other stuff going on now.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D