Early Parole from the MLC Chain Gang?????

[MHL]

I just got the following email from my wife. I had asked her to play tennis this week and she said yes but wanted to do it on Thursday so the kids could join us. That is the day she normally has the kids I originally asked for Wednesday so it could just be me and her but she said she had something to do but could not remember (sounds like a date). Last week she said yes to me and we could not get our schedules to work.

Here is the email:

Missherlove,
I got to thinking about tennis, and I would like to play, however I don't want to give you and the kids the wrong impression. I don't want to lead you to believe that I am coming back, or that we are working on us. And I def. don't want to confuse the kids.
If you think that would happen, please let me know.
I don't want to hurt anyone.

W

Is this an opportunity to have a R talk with her?

We never talked after we ML on June 13th.

She has never told our S9 anything definitive? (I have always held onto the belief that she was holding out b/c she was unsure.)

I do not know if there is OM involved at this point but I suspect she is wanting to get on the dating scene again. Do I ask her this? We had a talk back in March and she feels that it is okay b/c we are separated.

I have had a gut feeling on this for a couple of weeks now but not sure. We are getting close to the day she can file for D. August 26 (one year and a day after Separation in North Carolina) I feel that she thinks that it is this close that she should just go ahead and go through with it.

I think her pride is in the way of coming back. She told D13 that she "she may want to work on the M in the future but not right now". I think she thinks that if we get D and then she wants to reconcile that she will not have to face all that she has done.

I am not interested in rehashing the past, I want to move forward if we were to work on the M. I am not sure I have told her this before. We have not had a R talk in 2 or 3 months.

Just not sure what to do or how to respond. This could be an opportunity to go dark or draw a boundary especially if she shares that she is dating. Not sure that she would answer anyhow. I was thinking that if and when she files that i go dark.

D13 just texted me and she is going with S9 to see Mom tonight, she was not going to go this week at all but now she is. Could be my W is going to drop the D bomb on them tonight, I want this to be done together if at all possible, I want it to be clear to the kids that I do not want this that this is Mom's choice.

I really want to have this conversation in person not on the phone or via email or text. Thinking of saying we need to talk can you meet me at 5pm at coffee shop?

Taking any advice.