tired of this

[LRT Land]

It is comforting and disturbing to come here and read such similar stories. I have a WAH, and I'm sure he has some hormonal issues as well. When my hormones are high, I have a harder time dealing with him and seeing him in a loving way.

Goodman - that list your W gave you, IMHO, is plain nuts. I can't imagine throwing so many things at you at once. Now, my H would do that. I suggested we come up with a few things we could ask the other to do to improve things and allow them to pick 1 or 2, and then the next week add to that. He said he could come up with 100.

When H is crazy/hormonal/whatever, I know that talking to him is useless. Once it ends I have a shot at a rational conversation. When I am feeling that way, I am usually feeling neglected, rejected and am looking for reassurance.

So, a hormonal WAW? Drop the rope yet remain kind, respectful and wait for the rush to end (it always does). Then provide reassurance that you do care but won't tolerate over-the-top behavior. If they go off on you, say you'll talk to them when they are calm. If they storm after you, leave the room/house.

I have done a much better job of handling my moodswings after watching my diet more closely (carbs and sugar can set them off). The week before my cycle is the worse, and I tend to get weepy and short-fused. Know it for what it is, don't take it personally, and don't feed the beast.

Don't know if any of this makes sense. I feel completely inept in the R area at the moment.