[quote=MakingProgress When women do not get the emotional support they need they are unable to produce the oxytocin and seratonin they need to handle stress and feel connected. When they do not get emotionally validated, they do not get those hormones and they can act as if they have PTSD. An increased workload (increases testosterone which decreases their ability to handle stress, etc.), death of a loved one, etc., can put them over the edge in terms of balance and ability to cope. If they do not get the oxytocin and seratonin they need, they cannot handle stress, may say and do irrational things, and detach from us. Sound familiar?
Then, they are incapable of handling the pain that is associated with their marital relationship and plan to leave. In order to justify their decision, they amplify everything bad in the relationship and minimize (or even forget) everything good.
When we can accept that the WAW is injured and we are partly responsible for that injury, we can begin to treat them with compassion and stop focusing on our own pain. It's also easier to forgive them. [/quote]
I have the same question as Good. Let's say I accept all of this above, and I do, how does that affect the way I interact with my W now that she has had an EA and has filed for D? How do I treat her with compassion while still detaching and fighting for my life/family?
