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Shelby #2041699 07/20/10 07:29 PM
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Sit down with the phone book it you have to and call 4-5 L's today. Ask about initial consultaions. Some may list websites that you can look up before you call. Yes, you should do this before you meet with that L next week. If you can find someone who won't charge you for the initial advice, that's better since you can't afford it anyway.

Have you checked the credit card you share? Your H might have taken you off it. It sure seems that he had a plan going into this.


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I will be calling other lawyers today. although he is still trying to convince me to use his lawyer, because it doesnt matter if I get my own, the outcome will still be the same as far as what I will get in the end.

He stoped by last night, I thought he was coming over to give me the papers I need for the lawyer, he said he was only there to visit with the Girls, it is very awkward, they really do not have much to say to him, so we all sit there staring at the TV, while every once in a while he tries to make small talk.

I did get to talk to him privatly at one point and asked about out joint credit card.....he cancelled it!!!!
So now I have only $170. in the account and no Credit card, how the heck does he think I am going to be able to get a lawyer ?
He wanted to do this divorce quickly, but now I have to wait till I get a card on my own to pay for a lawyer, Unless this is his sneaky way of still trying to get me to use his lawyer.

If his lawyer wanted us to handle the amibicaly like he said then why would he have me served like that. NO way !!


Me:43
H:43
T:20 YRS
M:15 YRS
Bomb: 6/9/08
Bomb#2 7/6/10
Served with papers at work 7/13/10
DD:14, DD:11
Shelby #2042166 07/21/10 01:28 PM
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Shelby,

H is feeding you BS about using his lawyer. His atty works for HIM. You and your girls deserve to have your own representation. When you decide who will represent you, ask about petitioning to have your H pay YOUR legal fees. After all, this is all his idea...he filed on you. You need protection....and SOON!

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(((((Shelby)))))
He is manipulating the money to control you through whatever comes. He is NOT looking out for you, that's for sure!

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Shel, get that $ out of that account asap, if it's still in the joint. He has some sort of plan here that you aren't seeing. Of course, he wants you to use his L. It makes it easier for him to get whatever HE wants, but that is ridiculous.

You need to do this TODAY! The clock is ticking on responding to his petition. As Sivlerado said, be sure to ask about petitioning that your H pay your legal fees since this is what he wants. Not to mention, you can get temporary support quickly since he's left you with basically nothing. You can also state in the temporary order that he cannot remove you or the girls from his health insurance.


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Is there a way to check if he has a keylogger or something simular on the home computer.

At this point I wouldnt be surprised by anything he is doing ?


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T:20 YRS
M:15 YRS
Bomb: 6/9/08
Bomb#2 7/6/10
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DD:14, DD:11
Shelby #2042896 07/22/10 03:33 PM
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Shelby, get your own L. Do not use his. Conflict of interests, completely. Sorry to hear what happened but you are better off than being with a man who even took all the $ out of your account, while you are home with the kids.

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Shelby, it would be difficult to impossible to tell if there is a keylogger. Once you pry some money from his greedy hands, I would be really tempted to get a $300 netbook that you keep totally to yourself.

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I just asked him over the phone how we are supposed to live off of $150.00. I told how the gas tank is empty and that is $60.00 right there......He said when he checks the account and sees that 60.00 was taken out for Gas then he would reimburse ( I am sure I spelled that wrong) Me.

What the Heck !!!! He has lost his mind. He wasn't this contoling when we were married.


Me:43
H:43
T:20 YRS
M:15 YRS
Bomb: 6/9/08
Bomb#2 7/6/10
Served with papers at work 7/13/10
DD:14, DD:11
Shelby #2042937 07/22/10 04:25 PM
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Well it sounds like he thinks he's all that and a bag of chips and is going to control your actions by restricting your access to the finances. Don't let him get away with this crap anymore.

Open up a separate checking account and have your salary start going to it - he should not be dominating the financial picture when you both work.

In the visit you have set up with the L ask for a temporary child support order which will require him to start providing you with money for your kids - if your state allows this.

Your H is being completely unreasonable and an a$$hole if you ask me.

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