1. Get away from the house when he's here. Go to a park alone and read, go to the library, go shopping, go to visit my kids on the weekends.
2. Don't talk about the R or tell him I love him anymore.
3. Don't be sad when he says something that hurts me..for instance all of his plans start with "I" instead of "We" like they used to. it makes me cry.
4. Get a job
5. When I am here around him, sew or do my other hobbies, don't chit chat about his day or ask him anything. Just be quiet and go in another room or something.
6. Don't sit out on the deck and have wine and watch the sunset with him.
7. Don't give him books or articles about MCL to read, don't even talk about MCL.
8. Smile, even if I don't feel happy.
9. don't text or call him ever unless I absolutely have to.
10. Should I: Stop cooking for him and doing his laundry? that would be a weird thing to do and he would think I was trying to punish him or something.
So..what's left to talk about or do?
Lately he has been talking about doing a bunch of stuff around the house..re-staining the deck, pulling out dead trees, fix spots on the walls, etc. Almost like he wants the house to be ready to sell for when he tells me he wants a D. Anyway, he would expect me to help him with this stuff..should I just leave then? it would piss him right off. And as it is, he just gets pissed for no reason anyway.
