Well, mentally I am ready to confront! Emotionally, depends on the hour. LOL. I DO know it's the best thing to do. It's just the when/how/specifics that I am working out.
I would REALLY like to have some sort of proof of the EA I feel is going on before confronting. However, I may not be able to wait for that because H has been pretty smart. I just figure there HAS to be more to this than he says. There almost always is OP when someone is talking and acting this way. I just don't have proof and I feel proof is power. I think I may have to figure out how to proceed without proof though.
I really would like some advice here: Should I put Rob's plan in place for a few weeks before confronting? I know Dobson mentions that you "make them wonder" first. Part of me is impatient; I want to get this over with and behind me to get back to a position of power. The other part thinks a few weeks of making him guess beforehand would have bigger impact.
THOUGHTS???
If I did the latter it would go something like this: 1. Continue going to school Mon-Thurs. but also looking for a full-time job - interviews, whatever. 2. Amp up my workout sessions to get faster results (my diet is already very good. I mean, who has an appetite during all this?) 3. Even if I don't have friends to go out with, pretend I do and go find something to do for a few hours. 4. Do things with the kids without including him. 5. Be happy when he's around but not necessarily towards him. I'm Switzerland to him! As little convo with him as possible. (OR is that the wrong approach?) 6. Don't ask him to do anything around the house (like fixing things, etc...) 7. Continue dressing sharply - maybe buy a few new things.
After about 2 weeks of all of this, go into confrontation mode and tell him I want him out if he is not going to commit to our M.
