Not sure where to start, or end. WAW?

[john28]

Hang on a sec. I have this dead horse I need to beat for a sec, then I'll move on...

Other than her word, how do you know the EA is over? Your game plan is MUCH different if she's currently having an affair.

I haven't seen anything so far in this thread that says she's remorseful about the EA, just that she's sorry you got hurt by finding out.

If you have intel showing you it's over, then absolutely, put your Big Boy Pants™ on and give her the space she needs to get over him and work on her feelings for you, without any R talks or pressure for affection.

If you're just going by her word that she'll be EXTRA GOOD this time (pinky swear!), she's just stalling until she figures out Plan B.

I have checked up on her email, phone, and inet history logs for about two weeks. She is clean, and I work in technology. I'd know if it was "too" clean.

Up until about two weeks ago, she hadn't said she was sorry about the EA (in fact it didn't end until around 7/4), and I pointed that out to her. She claimed she wasn't ready to say that. A day or so later, she approached me and said, "In the efforts of starting over, I am sorry that I lied to you and hurt you and went behind your back with this EA." Now, she did say that at a very emotional time and whether she meant it or not, I'm not sure... but the good intentions were there. She is remourseful in my mind.