Well, Your answer is the same as about 15 other men or more on this site that keep trying and trying and trying and keep getting the same answer back...and then they try some more of the same.. and others on here confuse them by telling them to "just keep" making those changes.. While the Wayward keeps on saying they just don't love you...
And we wonder why it isn't working and we wonder if maybe tomorrow or the next day things will turn around.. And they never do.
Your answer is to let her go. That has been your answer and will continue to be your answer... She has told you with words and with actions that she is not in love with you and just wants to be friends.
So you in turn keep pursuing and chasing and giving money and footrubs and backrubs and act all happy and want counseling and run to the store at her whim.... etc etc..
And all the while are trying to get me to believe that you are doing 180's. Those types of 180's are a trun off to most women. You are showing you have no self esteem and no self respect. She is seeing that letting you down easy isn't working. You think like others that not having relationship talks equals the relationship is better. That is not true. Not having relationship talks is her hoping you get the message that she WANTS out. It won't be until you deliver the correct answer to her and show it that you may have a chance. That answer is to agree with her that it isn't working. Agree with her that she doesn't love you and that now you realize that YOU don't want to be with a woman that doesn't love you and not only that but you are not sure how you fel about her anymore. That you want her to find a place asap and that you think that it is best that you separate.
What you are doing isn't working. She just told you that when she said she just doesn't feel for you. Take her at her word. Hanging in there seldeom works. Letting go does work better.
I would also say the affair is STILL in process and she has you fooled. You of course will want to deny it with all your heart. I would guess that something is still going on except that now she knows how to lie to you so that you don't figure it out.
