Exposed finally,,limbo land

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No big news here, just doing what I can to detach better, and GAL. Yesterday I only initiated contact one time, and that was to tell D8 goodnight, and did not speak with W except,” I would like to say goodnight to D”. So far today, she initiated only contact, it had to do with D8 summer camp, I answered it and did not try to further the conversation.

How do you know when the ignoring them is working?

I also got a hold of our real estate agent, a long time family friend, to pick his brain on options in case I have to give house back to bank or short-sell. He has a lawyer friend that deals with this stuff all the time. For $150 he will meet with us for an hour and let us know all options. Seems reasonable. W found folder that agent left under the mat at my house(the one we own together, as opposed to her rented town home), and TM me that it was there, wanted to know if our friend the agent hated her now also(assuming I told him of the A), I said, “no, he is just worried for us”. The other night when she had my sign ‘notice of service’ for D documents I asked why we had to rush it, she said,’ I’m tired of getting dirty looks from everyone, like I’m a slut, or a whore.’ I had no response. How do you guys read that?

I also scheduled a meeting with a bankruptcy L to see what, if anything I/we can do there if necessary. Seems a bit like W is a little uncomfortable with it, not sure if it is the fact that she doesn’t want to ruin her credit(most likely) or that she sees that I’m accepting the finality of the D process.

Lastly, I am reading thru QS thread, and there was mention of taking down marriage pictures. I still have ours up in the house, do you suggest taking them down? And help me understand the reasons please?