Thank you all. The party was wonderful. At the end of the meal, I made a short speech pretty much along the lines of what I posted the other night:
That they were all here because they are the people - or the significant others of the people - who selflessly helped me keep my sanity these past many months. They listened, always, intently, and empathetically whenever I called. And their calls to me were often so wonderfully timed just when I needed them most.
That they were also here because it dawned on me that they are THE people in my life who have never, ever let me down. and since I've never been much of an entertainer/party-thrower, I thought it was high time that the most cherished people in my life met - or re-met - the most cherished people in my life.
And I almost made it through that dry-eyed. Almost.
It was wonderful. Everyone had a great time of fun, conversation, music. volleyball and good food. Son, 31 sent me away from the grills, saying, "Go sit and enjoy your friends; I got this." And he did all the cooking for 16 people.
It was a day of love all around.
And I still have so much catching up to do with you all. And I will.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
Sounds like you had a great time with friends and S31- nice speech too!
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
That sounds like such a wonderful celebration of you, of friends, of love! You raised a good son. I'm so happy you had this day and this exchange of appreciation and gratitude!!
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
Journaling, Went to Court for Modification today. Haven't seen my former spouse since her "let's be friends" overture in March six weeks after D when I told her "You ended and shattered our friendship repeatedly in the last year. Friends don't do the things you've done. I do not want to be your friend."(short version.)
Well she was chatty! I was polite and pleasant, but she kept going on and on with courtroom observations and anecdotes, etc. After a long wait for things to start, we were called first and were done literally within 90 seconds.
She was supposed to bring me something today. Left it in her car. "I'm in lot B, you have to pas it on your way out so stop and give it to me there," says I. "No, walk me to my car, it's not far." Okay. She chats the whole two blocks. About everything. We get to her car, she hands me the something, holds onto it and to my hand for a good 2 - 3 seconds as I kept a mild taking it/pulling my hand away tension, looks me straight in the eyes and, smiling, says, "It was really good chatting with you, today, Gardener." I replied, "Goodbye. Be good to yourself, J."
Go friggin' figure.
I don't make assumptions anymore, but the first thought that came to me as I cheerfully, detachedly walked away was, "Be careful what you wish for..."
And tonight, I took my first one-hour yoga class at my gym. What an experience! I exercise almost every day, meditate every night.
But yoga tonight was like the blending, the melding of the two: the breath control, the muscle exertion and correct form, the concentration, the mindfulness. It was absolutely wonderful! I'm hooked.
Last edited by Gardener; 07/23/1002:33 AM.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
