When women do not get the emotional support they need they are unable to produce the oxytocin and seratonin they need to handle stress and feel connected. When they do not get emotionally validated, they do not get those hormones and they can act as if they have PTSD. An increased workload (increases testosterone which decreases their ability to handle stress, etc.), death of a loved one, etc., can put them over the edge in terms of balance and ability to cope. If they do not get the oxytocin and seratonin they need, they cannot handle stress, may say and do irrational things, and detach from us. Sound familiar?
Then, they are incapable of handling the pain that is associated with their marital relationship and plan to leave. In order to justify their decision, they amplify everything bad in the relationship and minimize (or even forget) everything good.
FYI - all of this happened to me: the lack of emotional support, death in family, high stressed job, viewing M more negatively (though with reason), yet I stayed. But i find this post very interesting. I hadn't heard about the PTSD correlation. Maybe that is why it is so difficult for me to let the M die?
I'll also tell you when I feel those hormones ping ponging about, sometimes i "know" it and other times they take over. My H had no empathy for homones and didn't mind contributing to the problem. So a H that was empathetic would get many kudos in my book.
He: WAH Me: LBW Precious: DD
~ I'm grateful for every day I have to improve the way I relate.
