I tried, I changed, but still am getting divorced!

[ImprovedRomeo]

I hear you NM! all of us get anxious and need advice for our situations. Others can advise us because they're removed from the situation and can take a 1000 ft view of things. But you're smart and your instincts are pretty good...believe that

But now I would like him to show his interest in seeing me by calling me next (or texting). I did say I wanted to set up our kayak date!He knows I am interested!

See what I mean? you answered your own question and that's a perfectly reasonable expectation.

The only concern I have is, not necessarily you but him, making similar assumptions and having certain expectations and without saying anything we sometimes end up ruining a good thing. Like for example he might think "well she said she's going to set it up so I shouldn't act pushy and let her tell me the plans when she's had the time to work on them. I did say I was interested in the kayak trip"

Of course, this is just my PoV because this was the problem in my marriage. STBXW had expectations of me which I didn't know about and vice-versa which built up resentment and the feelings of 'he/she doesn't care about me'.