The signals are very plain and simple to me. But you are blind and hard of hearing.
This young girl is seeking emotional fulfillment that you have not given her. She "knows" how she should feel toward you, as when she gave the correct answer of, "I love and respect you", but she doesn't feel the "in-love" emotions she craves.
She's not happy, doesn't want to be with you, broke off EA, agreed to go to MC, and she's agreed to stay in the M. She is showing very positive signs, considering she's a WAW in heart. But the biggest problem that I see is the fact none of this is good enough for you.
If you were my son I would probably grab you by the ear and pull you down into a chair and hear me lecture you for at least an hour, but since you aren't.....I'll go easy on ya.
First, stop expecting something from her. Put on your big boy britches and make up your mind to be a strong, confident, sexy man who does not need physical affection to give you self-worth.
We women can read our H's soooo well. She knows why you linger for hugs & kisses. I'll tell you a little secret....it turns her off, so you need to stop doing that. Those things you say to her....thinking she will give you affection....goes against the grain and hurts your R.
These lingering looks and the things you say about hugs & kisses make you appear clingy, needy, and a weak male.
You are expecting more than she can deliver at the moment. You think since OM has been dropped that she should snap back into the W she used to be. But she can't do that before going through "withdrawals" from OM. If the A is truly over, then I think she's doing exceptionally well.
You want to see her putting forth effort but you don't understand that her staying there with you is her effort. That alone is tremendous work for her.
You need to back off and stop expecting affection. You let her go to you willingly. Otherwise it is pressure. She reads you like a book....and she knows what you want to hear and what you want her to do physically. Don't ruin the chances for a complete reconciliation by putting this pressure on her.
It will take time for her sexual attraction for you to warm up. It will take a lot of patient on your part.
BTW, don't do anymore of those temperture checks!!! You are a long, long way from even getting close to doing that.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
