They DON'T have a baby yet. They are TALKING and discussing and sharing their feelings and looking into having a baby.
This is how relationships go. Your goals change. This is how reconciliations go. People talk about whether they are going to keep the same house, or buy a new one. She is sharing her feelings...
I say.. LET HER SHARE her feeings. I have yet to see that it is a done deal that they are now having a baby and it is set in stone and she is using him... I say.. Let her open up and dream about it and he should be ALLOWING her to open up and and allow himself to be open to the same dreams.
He is now handling it correctly. He is mixing getting involved and interested with her in having children, along with taking charge of getting counseling (which she is going along with at the present, which means she IS invested in this working too) as well as learning to be a happy man...
This is his problem. He should be HAPPY that she is wanting children with him and now thinking about it. Should she be thinking about all the problems and the OM still? That it is what she is TIRED of doing. She is bored with talking about the relationship. She is tired of working on it. She just wants it to BE... He needs to understand again how she is FEELING and THINKING.. She is focusing on other interests and things that make her happy. AS HE SHOULD BE DOING. AS WE have been telling HIM. What does it matter if she is excited or wants a child. Very normal for a woman.
