I'll be honest, it's not a deal breaker for me. I believe she is sincere in not contacting this person. I have made another mistake about asking for something when I didn't really NEED it to prevent a deal breaker.
I just feel like I rocked the boat more now, and that she really is giving up the OM - I just solidfied my insecurity and self-pity by asking for transparency when I didn't really NEED it to continue this M.
The thing is, I believe she is sincere in working on the M, but all she can commit to right now is not leaving -today-. That's her committment. To see what happens today, and not leave. That's how she's trying. I think that with enough time of her staying and not leaving, then we can begin to work on the other issues like resentment, infidelity, trust, control, everything. I feel like it might be too early to make demands when she doesn't even WANT to be in the house, and is just staying because she wants to try to see what happens.
Do you think that is a good strategy?
Last edited by suma1; 07/20/1005:43 PM.
----"Et tu, Brute?"---- me:28 W:24 S4 T:6 M:4 EA Exposed: 5/21/10 Bomb: 6/20/10 (Father's Day) NC w/ OM: 7/10/10 W moved out 8/21/10 http://bit.ly/aOrZne - My sitch
