Just found out she already filed

[newmama]

Romeo, I almost replied earlier to say "I think your email sounds too nice..." but then wondered if I was being protective or wanting to hurt your exW! (haha- we DBers look out for each other!) So I refrained. Well then Braveheart nailed it on the head and said what I was thinking!

I also agree 100% with Bluestar's advice.

And the silver lining of divorce for kids is that they get 2+ birthdays, right? So I think you do your thing, she does hers. If your daughter expressed a desire to see both of you together on her day, maybe you can briefly be with her. I don't know.

I swear...it has clicked for me....THEY (our WASs) were selfish and chose to walk away from our marriage. THEY WANTED THIS! So she gets what she asks for...careful what you wish for! You know? We don't owe anything to them, we just need to be conscientious co-parents!