"W said this morning that she "thought it would be easier on the kids if she went along, but that she understood if I didn't want her to go and didn't think it would be much fun anyway."
Dan: "OK, I'm sure the kids will miss you, but this is probably for the best if I just take them. Look, I gotta run and (insert GAL activity here). I'll talk to you later."
Puppy
Do you see how this RESPONSE is validating your W's decision that D is the best answer? Do you see how this is not pursing behavior?
I see it. Still learning. I have to prepare for these situations better. After conversations, I always think, "I should have said ths, or I should have said that." I need to practice the outcomes before I get myself into these situations. I am not always so quick on my feet.
