THAT is the transition point where letting go transforms into a reversal of roles. The LBS becomes the WAS, and vice-versa.
I have read this quote more than a few times now.
Once my wife told me she was not only done with the marriage but she has been unhappy for three years. Her best friend my sister in law way back when told me that the last conversation between her and my wife was not good at all. My wife was “done” We did the normal things with the kids during the day and by night I was watching tv and sleeping downstairs.
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Is anyone irritated by their WAS? Like you don't want to see them or talk to them?
I got to the point where I could not even look at her, Childish but I would literally turn my head and hide my eyes when she would walk by ( never in the presents of the children) I did this for 5 months while we hashed out the separation agreement. It was the closest thing to hell. She walked around so happy texting her friends “ I read one test that said for her to head to the nearest YMCA and pick up the boys”
Some of my resentful comments were off the cuff remarks and they were meant to pierce her heart I must say. Regrets yup apologized yup. I was literally on a downward spiral, she even said she was scared of me at times.
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I don't care what she does. It's her life and I'm not interested in knowing anything about it. The only tie we have is concerning our children. Other than that she's pretty much invisible.
I admit I do care what she is doing who she is talking to etc...but I do feel I have dropped the rope.
Getting advise on hear I started to control my roller coaster feelings. I ragged inside but showed nothing on the outside. A day before she moved out she said how was it I was handling this so well. My reply, this is a choice you have made to break up the family and I “ have turned the corner” She would ask to vacuum the downstairs and do my laundry and It felt so good to calmly say no “thank you”
We have been living apart for 4 months and yes the separation feels like a high pressure valve went off.
She has been late dropping the girls off and I have had to go the extra mile to pick the girls up but I do it with a smile on my face….never ever bitched not once. It feels so good.
