HFC, I have seen my W reconnect with our kids and is starting to reconnect with friends. She draws back into the tunnel. I do think that they get scared of going back to the old life of responsibility and commitment. You will know it when it comes you will not miss it, and anyhow there really isn't anything you would do differently.
If he is openly involved with OW still that reconnection can not take place. I would say he is in touch and go. He can't get up the strength to leave the OW but does not want to lose you either. He wants to know that you are always an option for him.
There are 2 schools of thought on Affairs, 1. Lay down boundaries and enforce them, this may look like a statement to your h that as long as he is involved with OW you can not interact with him the way you have been.
2.Ride out the affair.
If you have been NC for 26 days, i would say that you are doing great. That is far better than I have done before.
The watching is okay.....the waiting is the part that we all as LBS's have to work on. It is hard, no doubt.
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