Not sure where to start, or end. WAW?

[eeyore_no_more]

I know you want to help, but it's not your responsibility to fix her. Only she can do that.

DB'ing is about taking care of you, so you will be okay no matter what happens.

You can stand for your M and try to be the best husband, father and partner you can be, and you can shine a light on the path so she can find her way home, but it's up to her to do the work needed to fix herself.