Not sure where to start, or end. WAW?

[john28]

I think I already know the answer to this one, but if you knew about her issues, why did you marry her and start a family with her?

Also, I'm going to go out on a limb here, but has she ever threatened to kill herself? She seems to thrive on attention, and nothing says "rescue me" like vague threats about hurting herself.

I married her and started a family with her without knowing her issues. We were only dating for 1 year before we found we were going to be having a S. I did the "right thing" even with doubts in my mind if she was the right one for me and entered the M. She has told me she has the same doubts.

She has threatened to hurt herself, but that was years ago, maybe 3 years ago. Nothing since then.

I don't want everyone to jump on the RUN bandwagon. I'm looking for help here to save this. I love her, despite all her and my problems. She really is a wonderful mother. She is a wonderful loving wife when we are doing well. If she leaves, I fear that she'll take my S to NY away from me if anything "bad" happens in the S or D. She has stated she will stay near to me for the sake of our S needing his father.