How To Tell The Kids

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Dan
My sitch exactly.. I booked a trip for myself and the kids. Told w that we are no longer a family and by us going to a trip together we would give false hope to the kids and its not fair to them.
We did initially talk about her coming, but then both w and I decided it wasnt a good idea.
Its not healty for you either. You whole vacation will be spent thinking about her, wanting her, being with her like old times.

I went on my trip. Was it hard for the kids. Yes!... Leaving home especially. I expalined to the kids that there will be times that they will go with mom and I wont be there.
I made sure they were occupied all the time and had fun.

I had the kids call mom once we arrived and W appreciated that.
They didnt bring up mom other than 1 time.

Part of detaching is that the family is now you and the kids.
W was upset that she didnt go with us, but she understood why she shouldnt go.

My 2 cents. Trip was good and it was a breather from the W although it didnt change anything for her..