Is she who you thought you married? Is she who she has been lately? Yes. She is both of them. She is a complex human being who acts different ways under different circumstances. We all are. Judging her is not the answer. Take a weekend and learn how to talk to her. Then you can decide based on much more knowledge. And she can decide too. It's just 48 hours to really think about what has gone wrong and what can go right. Your family is worth that much effort.
this and Cat-- what you said-- and YES cat I read like crazy a few months back...
I guess the problem is I"m finding some happiness right now without her... and she nearly killed me last year. So from a Pavlovian standpoint I am extremely gunshy about it... plus I"m just not really attracted to her anymore. shes not NICE.
I have another court date coming up next week... I'm going to stick to my guns with this one... she's doing what she did before-- but I"m not gonna fold this time. I will just be back to where I was.
I'm working out in my head what I really need from her in order to do this.
I believe it will have to be a number of things in writing... like from her landlord that she has actually left. Pictures of her house there showing me its actually empty. a letter to the school where the boys were saying that they will not be coming back next year... things like that.
