In brief my Husband had me served with Divorce papers on July 13th at my work, He filed and signed them the week before but said nothing to me, he continued to sleep in our bed, eat meals together and even arranged a spur of the moment trip to an amusement park during this week, but never said one word about meeting a lawyer.
On tuesday I was served, on wednesday He told me he took the money out of our account leaving me $300.
I have been so lost and confused this past week. I have made an appt. with a lawyer, but that is not for another week. I told my Husband I need all our finacial info that the lawyer said to bring. He came here yesterday to spend time with our daughters while i was out with friends. He said he would gather the info and leave it for me. Well when I got home around 11:30 he was already gone and he left me no paper work.
My question is since I want to go dark with him, should I still contact him to let him know that I do need this info ASAP ? I quess Iknow the answer, I just have been so confused this past week, I want to make sure I keep my head on straight.
Thank you, Shelby
Me:43 H:43 T:20 YRS M:15 YRS Bomb: 6/9/08 Bomb#2 7/6/10 Served with papers at work 7/13/10 DD:14, DD:11
Please document that he took the money from your JOINT account. Depending on the laws in your state, he could be in big trouble.
About the paperwork, maybe a quick email to say,
H~
I noticed you did not leave the paperwork my lawyer requested. I need it by X date (choose a date before your actual appt.). You can either be a man of your word, or we can let our lawyers figure out how to get the information.
Shelby
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
When does this feeling go away. That I have been kicked in the stomach ?
I still can't believe that even if he did want a divorce that he would do it this way, to just have me served at work with no prior knowledge and then just to never come home again. One minute He is a Husband and father and the next minute he is gone.
Me:43 H:43 T:20 YRS M:15 YRS Bomb: 6/9/08 Bomb#2 7/6/10 Served with papers at work 7/13/10 DD:14, DD:11
I don't know when feeling of kicked in the stomach goes away. I am sorry that you feel that way. I hope it leaves you very soon. I have the same feeling. Exes do crazy things to hurt us, the ones they suppose to have loved, when breaking up. I have done some bad things lately. I don't have an answer for you I just wanted to say I am sorry because I know exactly how you feel. And it is not good. Sorry.
Shelby, that's horrible and I'm sorry you got served at work. Most will have the decency to have their L's call you in to get served or have your L served on your behalf. But you're not the first and you won't be the last...WAS's are generally very selfish, self-centered and just pissed off at the world.
The feeling of kicked in the stomach does eventually fade to almost nothing but it takes some time, lots of letting go and detaching. Seeing that you registered almost 2 years ago you've been at this for a while. You survived and you'll be OK.
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
Well I had no Lawyer because I didn't know I even needed one.
I would so love to tell the husband how much I want to thank him for the learning experience he is helping me teach the Girls, We Just finished grocery shopping and spent $100.00 I checked before I went and I only had $270.00 in the bank. I had to tell them no on alot of the extra things they like. SO I am teaching them how to frugal with the money.
Quess I should keep my mouth shut Or can I please just say something to him ?
Another question, there was something in the mail today from the post office it is addressed to current resident OR Husbands name. I think it is a change of address paper, I can read congratulations on your move. Am I aloud it open it, or shouldnt I even go there. I have no idea where he has been staying only that he is with a friend from work.
Me:43 H:43 T:20 YRS M:15 YRS Bomb: 6/9/08 Bomb#2 7/6/10 Served with papers at work 7/13/10 DD:14, DD:11
It feels silly to be wearing them when most people I see daily know my situation, but at the same time I have been wearing them for 16 years and it feels strange not to have them on my finger anymore.
Me:43 H:43 T:20 YRS M:15 YRS Bomb: 6/9/08 Bomb#2 7/6/10 Served with papers at work 7/13/10 DD:14, DD:11
Shelby, any luck with other L's? I've been thinking about you, keeping you in prayer. Did you ever get an explanation from H on the paperwork he was supposed to give you?
I wore my rings for awhile and took them off when it felt right. You'll know when it's right for you. (((shelby)))
I have a appt. with one lawyer next Tues. The other lawyer I called never returned my call. The lawyer I will meet with next week wants a $250.00 fee for that hour. Should I see if I like her first before looking for another ? Also how can I pay for this, I don't have enough in the account and we only hae one joint credit card together.
He gave no explanation as to why he did not leave them for me. I texted him yesterday and told him I needed all this info by Friday the 23rd. Or it will have to be dealt with between our lawyers. He called and said he may come over tonight to get them for me. I also mentioned I needed his 401k Info I am sure He did not like that.
I am having good moments where I am feeling strong and then I will think Of something and be on the verg of tears again.
I am just scared for my future and my Girls future. I was a stay at home mom for 10 years. I now only work part time in retail. I am a breast cancer survivor, I still am depending on my husbands health insursance. Also my name has never been put on this house, although I have lived here for 16 years.
Whatever lawyer I get is going to have a lot of work for this divorce.
Me:43 H:43 T:20 YRS M:15 YRS Bomb: 6/9/08 Bomb#2 7/6/10 Served with papers at work 7/13/10 DD:14, DD:11
