No Lola, Papers are just that . . papers. So is toilet tissue. Are there times I want to pick up the phone just to hear his voice? Sure, at least once every day. The thing is, the way he is now, his voice is so ugly and the things he says so ugly I know it would just make things worse.

My husband too loved to cook and plan menues for cook outs. He was always trying out new ideas and recipies. On the bright side, I've lost 23 pounds since he left. I survive more on a tablespoon of peanut butter and a glass of milk.

As lame as it sounds, time is the answer. For me, not seeing him or talking to him is far superior to my self esteem and detachment than seeing him ever is. Now, if I could just get the SOB out of my dreams!