Thanks, guys - am here with the full family (W, 2 kids, my sister) so have (I think) done a good job of holding it together on this trip, so no desire to cut it short...have been doing things for me and actually even had a good time with W last night on our "date" night out (despite everything - nothing like a few drinks to ease the tension)).
Think I may have figured out her password on that account, so want to be able to do some more digging when we get back before the full-on confrontation about this so she can't try to wiggle out of it...in discussing again w/ my sister, she has both a fake FB account using OM's last name (with OM as the only "friend") and an associated gmail account (which I think they're using as a way to talk to each other using the same account).
Have 2 more full days of the trip, then will be back home this Friday...
In piecing things together, looks like this account has been in place since at least June (and now strongly suspect he came down to see her right before our trip, as I took the kids a few days earlier to my sister's house (half-way to Hawaii) for a few days while she "worked" from home for a few days))...even remember her saying 1 of the nights she "went to bed early".
Funny how going through this roller coaster a few times the highs and lows are modulated - I'm not even freaking out this time, and feel like I will be really calm when I get around to discussing all of this.
During our dinner out, was weird that she was talking all of this future-tense stuff with us - anniversary trip in October, going to the next destination for this meeting next year (Paris) - funny how the WAW brain can segment things. Did also mention a desire to take a trip "by herself" in the near future.
Just want to fully be able to get as much recon as I can before I have this conversation with her, as my sister didn't honestly see a whole lot (but could see that she had logged onto both the FB and gmail account with OM's last name in both cases.
Oh, the webs they do weave to deceive...will definitely keep y'all posted on things upon return - thanks for all the helpful advice and helping me keep it together for a few more days.
NLG
PS: still thinking through Puppy's "# of strikes" question, but honestly feeling pretty done now given the recontact (and even potential for them having actually seeing each other before coming on this trip)...will still depend, for me, on what I'm able to see RE: the recontact (and if there's any "confession" around any of this, which I'd be shocked by at this point given she's seems at minimum to be back in an EA) - obviously this guy has a hold on her that is worth risking all of this (while continuing to give "lip service" to us reconnecting as a couple).
