Wife in MLC, filed in early March

[ericmsant2]

CH

My apologizes for not responding sooner - been tied up with trying to figure out how the hell I am suppose to support myself. Anywhoo...

I noticed that you sent her an email and my first responses is that it seem like a pressure. Just my opinion... here are my thoughts..

I've been fighting for our marriage and will continue to stand firm in the vow that I took before God

Sorry to say but don't ya think she knows this already. Remind her IMO is a little condescending. I mean it like telling her she has not realized your position, which I think you have made clear over and over again. Have you consider her position. The words that you are using come across as pressure and a little guilt if you will. At least that is my take.

the woman who complimented me always in my weaknesses.

I've always stood in awe of the way you brighten lives with your presence.

Why would you remind her of YOUR weakness? Why are you putting her on a pedal-stool? IMO..your almost saying "honey i can deal with everything you do and everything you have done because you are wonderful...just wonderful. As a matter of fact honey...you even dealt with all of my weakness".

Seriously CH - you and your W brought you to the place that you find yourself. Accept your role in this and fix that. Your wife has a role as well - you do not need to exonerate her for her role.

CH I am sorry to say...I'm worried about you dude. I am. I understand that you want to be right with God. So do I man..I do..I am just worried that you may be throwing yourself on her sword. Your email comes across like a little bit of a guilt trip to your W. I do not know what her R is with God - but if she does not have one..then all your words to her will be seen as controlling. Personally, I would cut off communication with her completely. If you are going to leave it in God's hands then you do not need to say anything.

Just my 2 cents.

God Bless,
Eric