I just posted this on another thread. I'm surprising myself with my emotional bounceback.
"Yeah, I'm wearing my ring, too. She took hers off a couple months back. But I'm married til the paper says I'm not. Just me.
My family is pretty happy cause they've seen D and I more often in the last two months than the previous year. And that's good for all of us.
I'm not looking per se either. But I think I'll keep my eyes open more.
Thursday W is coming over after I exposed them to work and OM's parents and tracked down his wife. they don't know about the W or that I'm going to talk to her mom and aunt, too. Just so "the truth is out there"
The A is her priority (though doomed) so I'm sure I'm going to get 10% of the truth but enough for her to say "she's done"
I think she'll be shocked when I agree; and tell her I am in the process of selecting some mediators and finalizing my Separation Agreement.
She'll be looking to push some buttons but I disconnected them all.
Could be a very interesting day. I have two days to relax; prepare and then I get to take D for a week with my family on a lake.
I haven't seen remorse or anything but I doubt her A will make it to Christmas. It's a stupid, childish fling. Why would a 23 YO Man/boy want to be with a 29 YO single mom? And vice-versa? Basic ego-feeding jollies. Short shelf life.
And I'll be immersed in my new one by then. Won't hear the tree fall in the forest. I'll be on the beach.
Just work on you. That's the best time investment you can make."
Cool, eh Suuny?
I'm kind of almost looking forward to clearing the air and setting her back on her heels.
And I found a great post about how to keep "that smile" on your face-
"Don’t act happy around her be happy… you know what helped me? next time you see your wife….think back to a time or incident that was really fun or naughty that you and wife did. I guarantee you a smile will show up on your face... USE your memory from your “feelings bank” You can’t help but relive them good or bad."
And I'm keeping that one.
Situations? I'm 47 with a 2.5 year old daughter. I can't see that making my love life easy but I'm really not that concerned. I have decided to be happy and focus on me so I can focus on my D when it's my week.
And she'll have the best dad. What greater legacy can a man leave behind?
