I disagree with CD Bear. Some people may need to get away to Gal.. I didn't. In fact I think it is better to stay in your house.. If my W wanted to leave fine but I was not going anywhere. I did not cheat on her.
I kind of cringe (and I may have taken it wrong) when CD said "And THAT will show you AND HER that you can and have let go"
You don't need to show her anything. Believe me when YOU change she will notice. But you can't do it with the mind set to "Show her" you need to do it FOR YOU. You can't ACT as if... you need to BE as if. Acting shows and does not last. Remember “Getting a life” does not mean going out with the boys so she will notice... It means going to play pool because YOU WANT TO. It means going on a hike BECAUSE YOU WANT TO...joining a gym BECAUSE YOU WANT TO... NOT because “she will notice” It’s hard I know I have been there... I did the same things “so she will notice” and she noticed that I was doing things to try to impress he... not for me. And this made me look pretty pathetic in her eyes... You can’t pursue buddy… you need to make yourself somebody that you would want to hang around. YOU need to gain control of what you can control...Be a leader you have no control over your wife and you cannot MAKE her change …. But something really strange happens when you truly change. She will also... without really knowing it Don’t act happy around her be happy… you know what helped me? next time you see your wife….think back to a time or incident that was really fun or naughty that you and wife did. I guarantee you a smile will show up on your face... USE your memory for your “feelings bank” you can’t help but relive them good or bad. But leave the bad ones behind for now. Try it right now think of when you and your wife did that was really naughty …………….are you smiling?
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
